Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Valentine's Day Swap 2010 FAQ

1 - How do I join the Weddingbee Group? Once you've created your account (directions here), select the 'Group' tab in the top right corner. Search "Weddingbee" and click to view. The option to join will be in the top right corner under where you found the 'Group' tab.

2 - I've joined the WB Group, how to I join the swap? Once you've joined the group, you have not automatically joined the swap. Under 'Group Swaps' click 'WB Valentine Swap 2010'.

At the bottom of the grey business about the swap there are two options - 1) 'Join Swap' or 2) 'Watch Swap' - You want to 'Join'... come on it will be fun, everyone's doing it ;-)

3 - When will I get my addresses?
The last day to join is this Friday, Jan 29th. After that day I will be notified by Swap-bot to assign everyone's swap partners. I do not personally pick who swaps with who, but as the Swap Coordinator I push the magic button. You should get your addresses by Saturday.

4 - Is says cards, can I mail something bigger? Um, YEAH! Last year I got a padded envelope of goodies - stickers, candy etc. You can send cookies if you want! We just don't want everyone to feel they need to do that. The cards I received last year were just as lovely and I could someone put a lot of thought into them.

Please note... Once the swap closes on Friday (Jan 29th) we cannot add or delete participants. So , please don't join unless you're sure you can participate. It would stink for the person who mailed out 3 Valentines and didn't get three in the mail.

Friday, January 22, 2010

Cancelled SD Meet-up = SD/OC Meet-up in SD

Hive Hostess, LatteLove, and I have been Tweeting about turning the cancelled San Diego meet-up into an SD & OC Bee Meet-up! This time the OC (or at least me) will come to San Diego :)

The new meet-up is Saturday, February 6th at the Pacifica Del Mar's Breeze Cafe.

Mr Frenchie and I LOVE this place so much we tried to have our rehearsal dinner here and our wedding across the street at L'Auberge Del Mar. Anyway, we're hoping everyone from the cancelled meet-up can make, as well as those that couldn't.

Hop over to the SD local boards and let us know what time works best! 11? 12? 1? Will you go shopping with me after? I've seen Louby's on sale there before! There are TWO White House/Black Markets!

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Valentine's Day Swap 2010

Dust off your glue guns and bust out some glitter, because love is in the air (more so than usual, around here) and it's time for the 3rd Annual Weddingbee Valentine's Day Swap!

Like last years Swap, we'll be using Swap-bot to help with the coordination...

Here's how it works:
1 - Start by creating an account at Swap-Bot. (If you participated last year, you're already set-up, just take a moment to make sure all your info is current). Please note that your address will only be shared by your swap partners (otherwise, where will they mail your valentine?!). Once you’ve signed up, request to join the Weddingbee group. Once you receive a group acceptance, you can sign up for the Weddingbee Valentine Swap! The swap is a private one and not open to the Swap-Bot public. Only those in the Weddingbee group can participate in the swap.
2 - On January 30, you will receive an email containing the addresses of the 3 other swap participants you’ll be sending your valentines to. Once you are signed up and the sign-up date has passed, you will not be able to drop out, so please sign up only if you are sure you can participate. We want everyone to receive a Valentine!
3 - Create handmade valentines (or if you’re not so crafty, it's a proven fact that adding loads of candy to pseudo handmade valentines always sweetens the deal!).
4 - Take photos of your fabulous handmade valentines and email them to WBValentine2010 (at) yahoo.com. They will be included in a post on Weddingbee about the swap in February.
5 - Package your valentines and send one to each person on your participant list by February 9 (that's a Tuesday). If you are going to be late, please contact your swap participants. We want to make sure everyone who signed up to participate gets their valentines.
6 - Check the mailbox like a crazy bride waiting for her RSVPs because you've got sweet handmade Valentine’s Day cards coming from your Weddingbee pals!

*A note on international shipping: We do not have the ability to specify how many international addresses you will get so please plan for that. We also do not have the ability to create U.S. domestic-only swap groups.

Not quite sure what to make? What, you having been planning this for the past year? Check out the previous swaps here, here, & here for inspiration.

Friday, January 8, 2010

Frenchie Kisses: The Big 'Oops'

Okay so, we left off here...

Mr Frenchie and I were just announced, YAY!

Our (actually mine, who am I kidding?) plan was for everyone to sing 'Prayer for the Road'.
The church I've attended since age 7, started singing this song at the end of every service when I was in Jr High. Plus, when I went to Scotland 7 years ago with the church choir we sang this at the end of every performance. As you can see this song has special meaning to me, so I really wanted to sing it at the end of our wedding ceremony. The plan was to sing the song standing up front and then at the "Amen" part, Mr Frenchie and I would walk back down the aisle while our guest tossed rose petals at us. Sounds good, right?

Well, it didn't quite work out that way. When the music started no-one sang, the band didn't have an intro to say, "Hey we're gonna sing a song here people. It goes a little something like this." I thought because about half our guests attended the same church they'd catch on a lead, but that didn't happen.

I looked at Mama Frenchie like, "What are we gonna do?" and she just started singing the song (now about halfway finished), everyone else caught on, and we went on with the show.

At first I was totally bummed the song didn't work out, but then I realized no-one really cared but me and I moved on. Mainly, I was just so excited the toss worked and we were married!

After the ceremony we spent a little time just us letting it all soak in. We had to take pictures immediately following the ceremony, so we didn't get to go off to a room and send sometime together like I would have liked. But our friends were really respectful and didn't bother us off in our little corner for a few minutes.

Are you planning on having some time alone right after your ceremony?

Up Next: Family Portraits or Details? You tell me.

So Far...
The Beginning
Gettin' Sassy
Me & My Bridesmaids
Mr Frenchie's Morning
Waiting to go down the aisle
The "I Do"s

***Note: All photos, unless otherwise noted, are by the fabulously talented, and super awesome to know, Ohana Photographers***

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Frenchie Kisses: The "I Do"s

As I began to write this post about my ceremony I realized I completely left out a part that both Mr Frenchie and I found important, so I would like to rewind here...

Papa Frenchie and I have just made it down to Mr Frenchie and our officiant, Leanne.

Leanne greeted everyone and started the ceremony with a prayer:
Gracious God, You are always faithful in Your love for us. Look mercifully upon Jason & Allison, who have come seeking Your blessing. Let Your Holy Spirit rest upon them so that with steadfast love they may honor the promises they make this day, through Jesus Christ our Lord & Savior. Amen.
After the prayer, was the Declaration of Intent (which Leanne read to us each individually, but I've combined them for you):
Miss/Mr Frenchie, will you have Mr/Miss Frenchie to be your husband/wife, to live together in the covenant of marriage? Will you love him/her, comfort him/her, honor and keep him/her, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to him/her, as long as you both shall live?
We of course answered "I Will"!

Now comes the part I was super bummed I forgot to tell you about, The Affirmation of the Congregation:
Will you who witness this covenant between Allison and Jason, respect their marriage and sustain them with your friendship and care?
For us it was very important to involve our guest in our ceremony, even just a little bit. I mean, we did ask them to go to the wedding for a reason, right?

This whole time Papa Frenchie was still standing to my left, you may think that is a long time, Mr Frenchie did, but it past in a flash! Before I knew it Papa Frenchie was 'giving me away' on behalf of himself and Mama Frenchie and sitting down.

Next, my cousins on Mama Frenchie's side read Corinthians 13:1-13:
If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. And now faith, hope and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.
Corinthians 13:1-13, is probably to most read scripture at weddings but it has been my favorite scripture since I memorized it in grade school and no-one was going to talk me out of using it on our wedding. We made up for it with a unique second reading... keep reading it's coming up ;-)

After the reading Leanne went into her Sermon, based on this quote byFrederick Buechner:
“The first stage is to believe that there is only one kind of love. The middle stage is to believe that there are many kinds of love and that the Greeks had a different word for each of them. The last stage is to believe that there is only one kind of love.

The unabashed eros of lovers, the sympathetic philia of friends, agape giving itself away freely are all varied manifestations of a single reality. To lose yourself in another’s arms, or in another’s company, or in suffering for all men who suffer, including the ones who inflict suffering upon you – to lose yourself in such ways is to find yourself. Is what it’s all about. Is what love is.
Of all powers, love is the most powerful and the most powerless. It is the most powerful because it alone can conquer that final and most impregnable stronghold which is the human heart. It is the most powerless because it can do nothing except by consent.”
Leanne, recapped our first date and told the story of the first time she met Jason. She poked fun at how much we love food based on conversations we had in our meetings with her and the sheets she had us fill out. Apparently, in talking about something we wanted in our marriage we both said:
"...trust, support and reliability are key. That you are challenged and encouraged to be the best you can be, all that God has created you to be. You each want to make the other happy. That you can grow old with and cook with as often as you can!
It got a few laughs.

That's Mama Frenchie's I'm-trying-not-to-laugh-too-much-this-is-serious face

After we all giggled, it was time for the Getting Married part! This is when I realized I was still wearing my engagement ring on my left ring finger. I turned away from our guests to hand my sister my bouquet and on my way back I switched it to my right hand. VERY crafty, if I do say so myself, because no-one noticed (as far as I know), not even Sister Frenchie!

We repeated the following vows, we chose from a list Leanne had given us:
"I, Miss/Mr Frenchie, in the presence of God, take you, Mr/Miss Frenchie, to be my husband. All that I am I give to you, and all that I have I share with you. Whatever the future holds, I will love you and stand by you, as long as we both shall live."
Leanne blessed our rings...
"Rings are a sign of the never-ending love of God toward us and the kind of love we should seek for one another as well as the value and worth of our spouse. Love endures as we grow together in Christ’s love."
"Bless, O Lord, this ring, that he who gives it and she who wears it may abide in Your peace and continue in Your constant love throughout their lives. Amen."
We repeated...
"Miss/Mr Frenchie, I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness."

Following our vows and the exchanging of our rings, SIL Frenchie read excerpts from Sandol Stoddard Warburg's "I Like You".
I like you and I know why

I like you because you are a good person to like

I like you because when I tell you something special, you know it's special

And you remember it a long, long time

You say, Remember when you told me something special

And both of us remember
When I think something is important
 you think it's important too

We have good ideas

When I say something funny, you laugh

I think I'm funny and you think I'm funny too

I can't remember when I didn't like you

It must have been lonesome then
Even if it was the 999th of July

Even if it was August

Even if it was way down at the bottom of November

I would go on choosing you

And you would go on choosing me

Over and over again

And that's how it would happen every time.
That may sounds familiar because it was also a reading in the Candy Corn's wedding and Miss Scissors also recently posted about reading at their wedding. I wanted to read the WHOLE book, but Mr Frenchie was nervous about having to stand in front of all those people that long, so we just chose some of our favorite parts.

Mr Frenchie later admitted the ceremony went by much faster than he thought it would, before he knew it were were repeating the Lord's Prayer.

And being pronounced as Husband and Wife!
"Inasmuch as Jason and Allison have made their solemn vows to each other before God and in the presence of this congregation, and have pledged their faithfulness to one another and have confirmed their covenant by the giving and the receiving of rings; and by virtue of the authority vested in me as a Minister of the Word and Sacrament, and by the laws of this state, I now pronounce you husband and wife. Therefore, what God has joined together let no one separate. In the name of the Father and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit."
Which is my favorite part of every wedding. Hearing "...I now pronounce you husband and wife. Therefore, what God has joined together let no one separate..." for us, WAS AWESOME!

Then is was kissing time...
"May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord make His face to shine upon you and give you peace, shalom, wholeness, fullness of life, both now and forevermore. Amen."

"You may kiss the bride."
Because we weren't going to a new venue for our reception, we decided to have Leanne announce us for the first time. We also LOVE Leanne, and no offense to our awesome MC, we felt like it would mean more coming from her.
"Ladies and Gentlemen: it is with great pleasure that I present to you for the first time Mr. and Mrs. Jason and Allison Frenchie."

Is your groom (or you, Miss Pug *cough*) trying to make to ceremony shorter to avoid standing in front of all those people for too long?

Up Next: The biggest 'Oops' of the Day

So Far...
The Beginning
Gettin' Sassy
Me & My Bridesmaids
Mr Frenchie's Morning
Waiting to go down the aisle

***Note: All photos, unless otherwise noted, are by the fabulously talented, and super awesome to know, Ohana Photographers***